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Do you fight about the same thing over and over again? Do you get reactive and defensive when conflict happens? Would you like to learn how to connect with each other? The blame game is one of the most painful and damaging defenses couples use when conflict happens. If couples stay focused on blaming each other instead of trying to...[ read more ]

There is so much beauty and healing power in words... Words can be arranged to create a poem that expresses your experience in the moment, or you can just free write as a way of expressing thoughts, emotions and experiences. Writing can be like drawing a picture on paper but instead of using images you're using words. To me it's...[ read more ]

Are you in touch with your physical, emotional and spiritual needs? When was the last time you took a break from the daily routine of caring for others to meet your own needs? When was the last time you were able to let go of worries, relax into the moment, laugh or dance to upbeat music? What a Treat! I...[ read more ]

  Want to go From Conflict to Connection? Want to improve your life and your relationships? Want to find a different way of relating towards yourself when faced with challenging situations or emotions? There's a way and it's called Mindfulness Meditation. It starts from the premise that life is painful and then we add to the pain (judgments, opinions, interpretations) and create...[ read more ]

How easily do you get triggered? We are so easily triggered by our environment. It could be something said, a gesture, a look or a behavior. It doesn't even have to be a person! We can get triggered by the weather or by traffic and we're off and running into a full blown reaction! I experienced that today and I...[ read more ]

What is Mindfulness? “Mindfulness is the awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose and non-judgmentally to the unfolding of moment to moment experience. We train in mindfulness by establishing an embodied presence and learning to see clearly and feel fully the changing flow of sensations, feelings (pleasantness and unpleasantness), emotions and sounds. Imagine your awareness as a great wheel....[ read more ]

"We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves..." Since practicing Mindfulness I've become very aware of when judgment is coming up. It begins with a sometimes sharp at other times subtle pain in my heart, a  closing of the throat or a agitated feeling in the stomach. It's a feeling of being triggered...the...[ read more ]

Many couples engage in what I call the "merry-go-round" argument. This is where you argue about the same thing over and over again and never get anywhere. It's extremely frustrating and as useful as banging your head against the wall. So why do it? Why do we (couples) engage in these fruitless arguments that drain our energy, create more distance,...[ read more ]

[caption id="attachment_299" align="aligncenter" width="300" caption="Stressed out?"][/caption] Is your patience wearing thin? Are you emotionally and physically drained by the end of the day? Given what's happening in our world today, it's not surprising to find the number of people suffering from stress, depression and anxiety on the rise. Just tuning into the news can be hazardous to your health! Reports...[ read more ]

Sometimes we can get so caught up in doing things, running errands, planning, etc. Other times we get so caught up in the routine of our day that we just coast through life in survival mode and are not thriving. We put emphasis on being busy and soon we begin to lose sight of our own identity and what's important...[ read more ]