Hurt and Anger creates a wall of resentment...
How Couples Therapy Can Help You Create a Healthy and Loving Relationship…
Are you facing challenges in life, love and relationships? Do you feel drained and overwhelmed by the demands and task of daily life? Are you confused and lost about how to improve your situation?
If you answered yes to any of these questions let us help you. Here at our center our approach is based on helping couples and individuals find healing ways of relating to lifes challenges.
Remember: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” ~ Albert Einstein
Research Proves Counseling does Help! With divorce rates at 50% or higher in remarried couples, we face the most severe challenges to relationship stability. Research shows that on average, couples wait six years from the first signs of relationship problems before seeking help. A recent study conducted by the Association of Marriage and Family Therapists found that after receiving treatment, almost 90% of clients reported an improvement in their emotional health, and nearly two-thirds reported an improvement in their overall physical health. A majority of clients report an improvement in their functioning at work, and over three-fourths receiving marital/couples therapy report an improvement in their relationships.
What is Couple or Marriage Counseling?
Power struggles are a sign of growth trying to happen...
Couples counseling helps partners look at the ways they connect with each other during positive and negative interactions. In therapy the focus is on increasing positive experiences between partners, and guiding the couple in changing their approach to conflicts, frustrations and disagreements.
The Role of the Therapist?
The therapist acts as a compassionate guide who collaborates with them to identify the extreme parts inside each of them that create the presenting problem(s). If the couple agrees with the therapists’ observation, goals are set for each of them to work on their own parts, not on each other’s. For instance, a wife may be acting like her husband’s mother (telling him what to do), not like a wife . . .and her husband may be re-acting like a little boy, not a husband (temper tantrums, drinking, staying out late) . Both are reacting to the other. One does not cause the other .
Deep connection happens when we set aside defenses and listen from the heart...
The therapist creates a safe space for the couple to risk new ways of relating to each other, expressing feelings, thoughts and behaviors and exploring new possibilities and solutions to their problem. Counseling may involve a combination of individual sessions to work on their individual issues, as well as couple sessions to improve communication patterns and find solutions.