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“The source of love is deep in us and we can help others realize a lot of happiness. One word, one action, one thought can reduce another person’s suffering and bring that person joy.” ― Thich Nhat Hanh [caption id="attachment_1483" align="alignleft" width="201"] A moment of joy can awaken compassion[/caption] One word, one action, one thought can bring us into direct...[ read more ]

[caption id="attachment_1247" align="alignleft" width="222"] Imago helps couples create the relationship of their dreams![/caption] What do you long for the most in your intimate relationship? Is it connection, love, joy, passion? How do you react when there's conflict? One thing I've noticed after working with couples for over 10 years is that their deepest need to feel connected. Even after 25...[ read more ]

Often suffering in intimate relationships stems from couples becoming defensive or avoiding conflict. Sometimes it's because conflict is seen something that isn't supposed to happen or if it happens it means that the relationship is in trouble. When we react to conflict in a relationship as something that is negative and needs to be squelched it can build resentment, disconnection...[ read more ]

Do you fight about the same thing over and over again? Do you get reactive and defensive when conflict happens? Would you like to learn how to connect with each other? The blame game is one of the most painful and damaging defenses couples use when conflict happens. If couples stay focused on blaming each other instead of trying to...[ read more ]

There is so much beauty and healing power in words... Words can be arranged to create a poem that expresses your experience in the moment, or you can just free write as a way of expressing thoughts, emotions and experiences. Writing can be like drawing a picture on paper but instead of using images you're using words. To me it's...[ read more ]

How easily do you get triggered? We are so easily triggered by our environment. It could be something said, a gesture, a look or a behavior. It doesn't even have to be a person! We can get triggered by the weather or by traffic and we're off and running into a full blown reaction! I experienced that today and I...[ read more ]

Many couples engage in what I call the "merry-go-round" argument. This is where you argue about the same thing over and over again and never get anywhere. It's extremely frustrating and as useful as banging your head against the wall. So why do it? Why do we (couples) engage in these fruitless arguments that drain our energy, create more distance,...[ read more ]

Sometimes we can get so caught up in doing things, running errands, planning, etc. Other times we get so caught up in the routine of our day that we just coast through life in survival mode and are not thriving. We put emphasis on being busy and soon we begin to lose sight of our own identity and what's important...[ read more ]